After understanding the purpose of a relationship, we get a good answer sometimes as you choose to be in a relationship think of tomorrow/future and what comes after.
However, there is a question of morality. When the gap is 20-30 difference the man is certainly considered a ‘Mubaba’, this is the new slang phrase for older males in relationships with much younger women, which has supplanted the term “sponsor.”
Wababaz, as they are called, are wealthy and their fortune allows them to attract dozens of younger women looking for financial assistance in exchange for love relationships. The wababaz are typically twice the age of the women.
These romantic relationships were frowned upon by society. The wababaz earlier in the day were mockingly dubbed “sugar daddies” who were out to wreck the lives of naive young women.
Young adult women are no longer afraid of hanging out with wababaz in today’s dating world, where sexual interactions have become more liberalised.
The generational gap could make a spouse unconsciously try to control and parent the other.
Speaking to The Informer Ethics and Moral Enthusiast, Life Coach Ambaisi G. Masai says it is important to consider the future before starting your relationship journey and if you are able to persevere that way or at some point you will be uncomfortable.
“I think there’s a hidden agenda but if it makes the 85-year-old’s heart sing and be happy then I wish her well.
But with all of that said, her children need to take control of all of her assets while she is in a good State of mind and make sure everything is taken care of.
Don’t let him as her husband if they get married take everything that she has worked hard for. Children look out for your mom; she only wants to be happy,” Masai said.
According to a source who sought anonymity she stated older men are attractive and get to give a woman pleasure and satisfaction as well as financing her every need.
“I want at least another five more wababa because I need more source of income. That one gives me ten thousand in a day…how about I add the rest? Don’t you think I will be in a better position? (Nataka ata wababa wengine kama watano, nataka kupata source of income, huyo mmoja ananipea elfu kumi…nikiongeza hao wengine huoni nitakuwa mbele?)” she said.