Being single could be a choice or based on circumstances the notion that “all women are gold diggers” or “all men cheat” could be among the reasons why you are still single.
Positivity is a key factor to getting a good partner of your choice, one that satisfies your needs, however, the need for perfection could hinder you from getting a good partner.
Always looking out for red flags and when a suitor does something you automatically shut them down claiming “all women are the same or women are the same”.
Perhaps you attract people with your first impression but when they really get to know you, they find out you are toxic, pushy, vulgar, possessive or negative this could definitely deny you to pursue a genuine relationship.
Misleading information on your profile that you are married, you call yourself a fishy or immature name, your profile posts are not honourable, you are a catfish putting photos not of you pretending to be you. People are watching.
Some individuals have gone around the dating pool long enough to believe it’s a lost cause. After a few stings, you learn to avoid probing the hornet’s nest. Apathy can set in, and these singles stop caring whether or not they meet a partner.
You have ridiculously high expectations; if you anticipate someone to ride in on a white horse and whisk you off your feet, you’re probably still single. Hollywood’s portrayal of relationships in romantic comedies is absolutely unrealistic.
Your heart has been broken; this is an all-too-common excuse amongst many singles. After being cheated on or abruptly dumped, sometimes it feels safer to close off your heart to more hurt. While this may be a solution in the short term, it could leave you feeling lonely later in life. While being heartbroken hurts tremendously, trusting that there are better things in store for you is a much healthier outlook to take.
You have commitment phobia, which affects far more males than women. This phobia might develop for a variety of reasons. Fear of making the incorrect decision and being stuck with an unhappy partner for the rest of your life can make settling down practically impossible.
It seems like you’re always picking the wrong partners. People fall in love with someone who is either identical to their ex or completely unlike them (on the surface). People play out roles in relationships for the most part, and those roles are where they feel most at ease.
You’re not ready, I don’t care if you’re 22 or 52, you might not have arrived at a place where you’re in the right mindset to be open to love or ready to face the challenges that you’ll experience when you do meet someone.
It might be a cliché, but if you don’t love yourself unconditionally, you’ll find it hard to love someone else, and you’ll definitely find it hard to understand why on earth they love you.
Love is time consuming. You might be busy, the reason you haven’t yet forged a relationship that lasts might simply be that you haven’t freed up the time for one.
You haven’t recovered from past trauma, bitterness, resentment and the need to hold on to the past can turn off suitors who are looking for someone who is full and ready.
Having low self-esteem makes you appear exhausting, you make it difficult for others to love you if you don’t love yourself.
